Before the continental drift around 175 million years ago, in the times of Pangea, India and Australia shared a border. Perhaps this is why I often get asked who my mob is. I love that question. It makes me feel welcome and gives me a sense of belonging. The fact that I was born displaced becomes less prominent. But I have to apologetically answer that I am Indian. However, as a person of colour, I have a lot more in common with the first people of this nation.
I have met with my share of white supremacy and racism. But this one conversation about Pangea keeps circling back into my memory. A few years ago, I used to car pool with a colleague. Very white and very racist. I naively believed that grace and patience will help this person see that people are people. Some are good and some are not so good. Regardless of the colour of their skin or the languages they spoke. I ignored her subtle microaggressions. “You are not like the others, I like you”. “We don’t mind people like you. You came to Australia the right way.” I was inexperienced to deal with this type of racism and I also didn’t know how to tell her off and continue working with her.
One day, while we were in the car, we started talking about evolution and I said that there was a huge mass of land during the time of Pangea. Instead of asking what that was, she just said, “WE don’t call it Pangea.” When I persisted what she called it, she just said, “I’m not sure, but definitely not Pangea.” I didn’t pursue the matter but I should have. That memory is etched in my brain and I often question my decision to not call her out. Why did I choose to allow her to believe that I was not smarter, better read, and probably more highly educated? Of course, she is not a part of my life anymore but I just wish I had had the courage to not take that.
Since then, I have grown as a person and do not tolerate any kind of racism towards me or the people I know and love. I call things out no matter how many times I have to hear, “I don’t see colour.”
My reply, “I want you to see my colour and understand what that means when I am dealing with job interviews, entitled white bosses, and pretty much my daily life.”